Pregnancy Loss & Grief Integration
Thank you for being here. It takes tremendous bravery to face loss. It does not matter if you were 8 days pregnant or 8 month pregnant and it similarly does not matter if your loss was 8 weeks ago or 8 years ago. Your loss is valid and deserves to be held.
The specific outline of these services are for folks of all genders who have been pregnant and experienced loss (whether through termination for medical reasons, spontaneous miscarriage or stillbirth, or abortion).
The purpose of our work will be to clear grief and shame from your womb and heart space using family constellation work, guided visualizations, and reflective journaling prompts.
How it flows:
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Pregnancy loss can generate a type of grief which is sometimes called disenfranchised grief or unacknowledged grief. This means that the world doesn’t know how to appropriately honor your loss and as a result, you may not either.
Grief can store in the body in multiple ways. This may show up as unexplained body aches, dissocation, numbing, nightmares, PTSD, anxiety, and depression.
Depending upon the quality of your support system, you may also be navigating numerous intrusive thoughts. Thoughts such as “Did I do something to contribute to the loss?”, “How will my partner or family look at me now?” “Does my loss even count?”
The accumulation of grief can then contribute to longer term impacts, such as inabilities to focus at work, unexplained stress and irritation in your partnership, and being unable to access joys that once made life meaningful to you.
The goal and purpose of our work will be to identify ways in which grief, shame, and other emotions related to your loss are currently stored in your body so that we can release and resolve them and you can move forward with healing and hope.
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Most cultures don’t create sufficient space to acknowledge pregnancy loss. As a result, people who bear children often carry an accumulation of unacknowledged grief - which may then be handed down as ancestral baggage.
The incorporation of family constellation work (a somatic modality for ancestral and intergenerational healing) will help us tap into the grief your body may have inherited. Once you recognize the baggage, I’ll then facilitate a process for you to lovingly set it down.
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We’ll work together 5 times via Zoom, every week or every other week depending upon your preference.
Each session will run about an hour give or take 15 minutes. Each session will be centered on one theme and our work will be to identify and release blockages to healing related to this them.
The outline of themes that I offer to explore each session are:
• Session 1: Repairing trust with your body
• Session 2: Honoring your loss
• Session 3: Reconnecting with your community (your partner, your family, your friends)
• Session 4: Inviting the return of hope
• Session 5: Remembering your lineage
If these themes do not resonate with you, we will collaboratively identify what would serve you best.
You will be offered reflective journaling prompts and ritual/meditation activities for integration between each session.
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You don’t need to know the details of your lineage in order to create space to honor and remember them. The truth is, your body holds more information than your intellectual brain sometimes can recognize. An intuitive truth often emerges as space is created for it. Who you are and what you know is enough.
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This is an meaningful and tender question. The truth is, I don’t know what your journey will entail. I want every client to be able to build the family of your dreams. While I cannot guarantee any particular outcome, I do know that clearing the heaviness of grief, shame, and unacknowledged loss will give you more space to dream into your future with alignment, clarity, and choice.
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The 5-session package is $2500 pay in full.
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I encourage people to listen to their bodies. If you feel a stronger sense of opening and yearning to lean into this work (as opposed to tightening and constriction), it may be the right time. I invite you to book a connection call with me and continue listening to your own intuitive wisdom.
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Family constellations are a form of deep trauma work, but I do not believe healing needs to feel hard. It is my goal to facilitate a space where you feel gently and warmly supported at each step of your journey.
What folks have said following our work together:
I had done many reiki sessions and different medium readings to find answers to the repeated question of why my daughter chose to come early. Nothing I tried seemed to shake the feeling of heaviness, anger and regret. A lot of ancestral trauma that didn't feel like mine began to show up after what I thought I released years ago. After my session with Meenachi, I felt lighter. It was easier for me to find joy in the little things again and also open myself up to new possiblities for my life. I felt released from an ancestral contract my spirit made . I have allowed myself to connect to my daughters spirit in happiness.
💛 Sahmia
Before working with Meenadchi I couldn't access a context for miscarrying in which I wasn't to blame. I'd ruminate on questions like: was this bad karma, does my body "not work", what did "I" do - energetically, or physically to cause this. Reaching for a sense of control. Control over the sadness, the demotivation, the confusion, the spiral down. I couldn't do more than hold my breath & brace myself for the unpredictable ways the shock of this loss, multiplied by the depths of my grief, would change me for the worse. Feeling overwhelmingly powerless when it came to how this defining moment, would define me, or could. After working with Meenadchi I first gained access to deep sleep again - in my bed * hallelujah *, not on the couch with the TV on louder than the thoughts in my head. I gained access to a frequency of effective self-talk & compassion - the kind that only I could give myself, the kind I really believed. Each session I gained access to perspectives that my soft & hard parts agreed with. Deep diving into constellation work supported me in cultivating and embodying a sense of purpose for this experience spiritually, intellectually & somatically; which gave way to embracing all the loving ways that grief would expand me, and has.
💛 TDS
My sessions with Meenadchi were literally life changing…I was able to release and accept my past, present and future. I would really like to thank them for all of their guidance.
💛 Shaquan
Last night, this little being came to me and told me that she had never wanted to seek physical embodiment in a conventional form, and that though she understood why I thought the abortion was my decision, this thought was not entirely correct, as it had been her decision, too, since she had not wanted to assume a human form. You provided such a beautiful and spacious container for me in the session, and truly held some gnarly parts of myself that I had been deeply ashamed to think, let alone say out loud, with such tenderness and without judgement. I received your contract release as a gift of healing and gentle language, and it has helped me get in touch with a richer and more full version of life, including the life of this being who I cannot see, but whose deep autonomy I now am able to recognize.
💛 Valerie