Giving and Receiving Feedback: finding grace in hard conversations
Get good at giving and receiving feedback that feels healthy and effective.
but it doesn't always feel like it 💛
Most of us have a fear of giving and receiving feedback, largely due to early life and professional experiences of unkind criticism, chronically unmet needs, and a fear of telling someone that they're "bad"/hearing that we did something "wrong".
Feedback has the power to improve and deepen the health of all relationships - familial relationships, romantic relationships, professional relationships.
The two factors which can change the game in this equation are how feedback is delivered and how feedback is received.
Through this course, you will learn tools to deliver tough feedback with kindness, clarity, and gentleness.
You will learn how to receive feedback with openness, discernment, and grace.
You'd like to feel less anxiety and more calm when you give someone negative feedback.
You tend to get into arguments when you're telling people what you need and would prefer to feel ease in these conversations.
You shut down or become insecure when someone gives you constructive feedback and would prefer to receive this information in a healthier, more confident way.
You assume that feedback means something is "wrong" and want to get better at collaboratively improving relationships that matter to you.
You are in a supervisory role and want to improve your ability to give feedback that encourages growth and confidence.
Welcome
Working with me 1:1 and in the practice group
RESOURCE: Giving and Receiving Feedback Workbook
RESOURCE: Body Sensations, Feelings, and Needs Lists
RESOURCE: Grounding Strategies List
RESOURCE: Purpose and Intentions of Feedback
3 Rules of Feedback
Reflective Journaling: What is Your Why?
Live Call 1 Recording
Implementation Scenario
Preparation Step 1: Power Dynamics
p.s. about power
The What-If's of Step 1
Preparation Step 2: What Needs to be Heard?
The What-If's of Step 2
Step 3: Fact or Feelings?
The What-If's of Step 3
Step 4: Own Your Shit
The What-If's of Step 4
Step 5: Tangible Requests
The What-If's of Step 5
Implementation Reflection
The Secret Sixth Step
Initiating the Hard Conversation
De-escalating a Defensive Response
Live Call 2 Recording: Speaker View
Live Call 2 Recording: Gallery View
Overview of Somatic Activity
Somatic Activity: Anxious Response
Somatic Activity: Dismissive Response
Somatic Activity: Open Response
Journaling and Reflection Prompts
Live Call 3 Recording: Speaker View
Live Call 3 Recording: Gallery View
About this module
Implementation Scenario
Reason 1: It's true, but not the whole truth
Reason 2: It used to be true
Reason 3: They're in a different reality
Reason 4: Low capacity
Reason 5: Tone, timing, and energy
Implementation Reflection: Receiving Feedback
5 Steps for Receiving Feedback Gracefully
Live Call 4 Recording: Speaker View
Live Call 4 Recording: Gallery View