Intergenerational trauma may be the reason your business isn’t growing.
It might be the reason you’re on a roller coaster ride of feast and famine with your money.
It might be the reason you’ve been in talk therapy for years and are still struggling with the same issues.
How?
Because the stressors, anxieties, and worries your ancestors faced become encoded into your genetics. It’s a safety mechanism to keep the lineage alive.
For example, if your great-great-great grandfather grew up in a village where they constantly had to be on the watch for poisonous snakes, you could see a picture of a snake and feel a sudden pang of fear in your stomach - even though you live in a 14-story high rise.
But what if your great-great-great grandfather was afraid of success? What if he would have been punished for stepping out and being seen? Those fears are woven into your nervous system too.
Geeky science break:
Did you know that you existed in your grandmother’s uterus?
Yup!
When your grandmother was 5 months pregnant with your mother (meaning your mama was in utero), the eggs which would become you were formed.*
Which means that the daily stressors your grandmother had to survive changed the information that was coded into your genes (this branch of research is called epigenetics).
*I use this language for ease. People of all genders give birth to babies, and people with wombs aren’t the definition of motherhood.
Image drawn by Chidiebere Ibe
Connecting the dots:
You’re a first generation immigrant kid. Your mom’s primary mission was survival through perfection (perfect clothes, perfect make-up, perfect home) in an environment that was foreign and frightening to her. You’re now 37, and everytime you try to launch your sales page, you get a near panic attack because your nervous system is telling you that if it’s not perfect, you’ll lose everything.
You come from a lineage that experienced slavery. Everyone before you took a stable job, worked quietly and steadily to bring the family towards financial freedom and safety. You’re an entrepreneur who has big ideas to improve the quality of life for your community, but you feel blocked every time you try to share your work on a larger level, because your nervous system is telling you that if you are seen moving through the world with pride and with dignity, your whole family will be at risk.
You saw every woman you were related to sacrificing their own well-being for the needs of the family. You vow never to put yourself in that position and throw yourself into your career. You experience monumental success but constantly feel drained, exhausted, and empty, because your nervous system is telling you that extractive relationships (i.e. your current work situation) are the best place to call home.
What now?
Family constellation therapy is a modality to clear the ancestral trauma you didn’t even know you were carrying from your nervous system so that you can get off the roller coaster ride you’ve been on.
The best part?
It gets to feel easy.
It’s playful, it’s chill, it is deep, and ultimately, it’s freeing.
My work centers two primary issues:
Feeling like you have control of your life and clarifying your sense of purpose
Healing your relationship with money
If you’ve got another issue you want to explore, let’s chat about it in a connection call.
Frequently Asked Questions:
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We’ll use objects to map out various components of your primary issue.
I’ll guide you through a process of gathering body sensations as you connect with each component.
The body sensations you share help me identify how intergenerational trauma is being stored within your nervous system.
From there, I’ll facilitate a release process, so that you can safely let go of the trauma that isn’t yours to carry.
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• 10 weeks of support, meeting every other week (5-session structure)
• Each session is approximately one hour, give or take
• Arc of our work will be collaboratively developed in our first session
• Journaling and reflective meditation activities provided between session
• Voxer support between sessions
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You don’t need to know the details of your lineage in order to release ancestral trauma.
Because you are here, we know that you have a lineage and that lineage has shared information which is in your nervous system today.
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The work works best with folks who value personal development and who appreciate the geeky science vibe (epigenetics) along with energetic components of healing.
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$3000 USD pay-in-full
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I encourage people to listen to their bodies. If you feel a stronger sense of opening and yearning to lean into this work (as opposed to tightening and constriction), it may be the right time. I invite you to book a connection call with me and continue listening to your own intuitive wisdom.